Withholds--Worse than Mold

[Kerry]

The vast majority of family households are infested with a debilitating (unhealthy) addiction to withholding significant thoughts from each other.

Like mold spores, each significant thought withheld from someone significant has an effect.  A household is either happy or it has become infected with deceitful vibrations that cause unhappiness leading to even more breakdowns in communication, to a blaming divorce.

"significant" A thought is considered significant if sharing it verbally would cause upset or anger. Fleeting non-reoccurring thoughts are not significant. Recall the things you hid from your parents; if you have not cleaned up (acknowledged all of life's perpetrations), then you are presently training your child to deceive you as your parents taught you. They will predictably con a date into deceiving both sets of parents so as to have their first sex.

The word "verbally" is a reminder: All withholds are being communicated non-verbally. Your partner doesn't know what's wrong, only that it's been a long time since they have experienced the experience of love.

All, yes all, divorced couples withheld a significant thought from each other on their first date. Both brought their addictions to withholding and blaming into the relationship so as to reveal and complete the addictions. With 44+ years of 3-hour consultations, I have not found a single exception to this phenomenon. -Kerry

It's impossible for only one partner to have withholds; both are withholding the same number of thoughts from each other-again, no exceptions.

Last edited 7/9/24