Reunion Conversations

Invitation to Communicate:

How do I invite someone to get into communication with me?

The success you have in inviting others to communicate openly and honestly with you will be in direct proportion to two things:

1. How safe a space you are to have the person decline your invitation to communicate openly, honestly and spontaneously. It's an invitation that you must handle up-front, in your mind; you must envision the possibility of a seemingly* undesirable result. It must be your idea that they say Yes or that they say No. In this way you present them with a clean clear choice free of manipulation or make-wrong. (read about asking)

2. Your intention to be absolutely open and honest with everyone. If you have in mind that you are going to play it safe, or be polite, or not be honest, with say a police officer classmate, then it might take a bit longer for you to experience the value.

If you invite someone to be open and honest with you but your hidden, unconscious, agenda is to be right, or better-than, to make them feel badly, it will reveal your self-righteousness.

If you are carrying around hundreds of withholds and perpetrations it may show on your face. Some people just look angry or shut down, others are uncomfortable, serious, lacking energy and vibrancy, no joy, no aliveness. Some older people are so bogged down with withholds and perpetrations that they actually look burdened or grouchy. Some people are carrying around so much that there's an undefinable sneakiness that emanates from them. A perceptive person can read deceit or untrustworthiness in your aura. If you sense this is true for you, log on to The Clearing Process.—it's free - alias username registration required—it's a safe space to empty your mind of  perpetrations/things you feel badly about. If you are completely honest in the clearing (sometimes it takes several sessions to get to the stuff that keeps you stuck) it will be an emotional transformational experience.

*  "Seemingly" If you cause them to decline your invitation to clear with you you'll discover that it was your unconscious intention for them to say, "No Thank you." It will reveal that you have other incompletes that need to be acknowledged first, other breakdowns in communication.